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Monthly Archives: October 2011
Job Search Fatigue!
Folks are tired. They find themselves in an extended job search either voluntarily or more likely involuntarily. And as my career colleague, Ann Boyer, CCMC says “They’ve done everything right.” Many of these highly qualified job seekers have researched the best industries and job titles for their interests & skills; they are networking continuously and are connected through social media. They have updated their resumes, bios and cover letters and are applying for positions that are either being advertised or more importantly in that “hidden job market”. They have stayed positive and optimistic because they know their attitude influences every aspect of their job search. But now these “experienced” job seekers are tired and increasingly discouraged.
3 Things to Remember
First, remember that people are getting hired even here in Northern Nevada which has been hit very hard by the economical downturn and foreclosure crisis. Career professionals tell me that there seems to be a steady uptake in job offers across a variety of industries. Second, we need to also remember that there is work out there – lots of problems to solve – but the “jobs” may look different, sound different and the “how” these jobs are done may be quite different than what we are used to. So yes, people are getting work. Third, remember that persistence and patience does pay off particularly if you are willing to consider a different field, a relocation or creating several streams of income for yourself.
Pushing Past the Fatigue
So here is one tip to help push through that fatigue and keep up your momentum and optimism. Think of the small successes you could have that would feel really good. Here’s a way to do that . . .
Take a piece of paper and draw out the five Olympic Circles. You will remember that there are five intersecting circles – three on the top and two on the bottom. Next, take a moment to think of the five areas (or more) of your current life that you value spending your time and energy. Often these are areas that in the past you regretted not having the time to spend simply because you were working full-time.
Areas like your own health (exercise, eating well etc.); learning by taking a class; picking up a new hobby or volunteer commitment; having more time with your children; mini-vacations with old friends or maybe more quality involvement with your elderly parents. Pick what’s important to you in this chapter of your life. Now label each circle with one of those areas. If you want to add circles, combine priorities etc. that’s fine.
Now you can have some concrete successes in areas other than the job search. Identify priority short term goals/benchmarks in each of these areas. Be concrete – is there a weight goal? a sports fitness goal? a passion you want to nurture? Do you want to be more available to your parents, your own kids or your friends? Keep the short-term benchmarks easy to remember and to track.
Pats on the Back for Short-Term Successes
Now identify when you will know that you have hit those benchmarks – when you’ve made your first short-term goal on exercising; learning; volunteering or extra time with your own kids and parents. And give yourself a solid pat on the back for meeting each goal. It’s great to feel productive, appreciated and successful in these additional areas of your life. So even if the job search piece is taking a bit longer than you expected you are getting a wonderful boost of self-confidence from these other equally important areas of your life.
Create a “Portfolio” LifeStyle for Yourself
What will this next year 2012 look like for you? As we roll through a beautiful fall season, it’s natural and healthy to start thinking about the upcoming year. What do you want it to look like? Are you willing to change it up a bit by stretching into creating more “pieces” that perhaps feed your adventurous spirit; give you a chance to learn and grow and maybe even an opportunity to do something very different but meaningful to you.
Creating a “Portfolio” Lifestyle for Yourself
The word “portfolio” means a collection of things. Artists have creative portfolios for their work. We can use the same concept to creating a life for ourselves that is filled with several things. Creating a “portfolio” lifestyle is a balanced mix of work, learning, recreation, family and community contribution. It’s different. It’s fun. It engages your energies and spirit. And you don’t have to wait until retirement to do it.
But are you willing to change how you think about your future life? To move from a linear life vision to a muti-life vision takes a major change in how you see yourself and your world around you. Some people are open to doing that and others can’t imagine working and living differently than they have for years or their parents before them. Interesting, our tough economic times in the last few years have certainly “inspired” many of those folks to be much more creative – and sometimes much happier!
5 Tips to Begin Creating Your Life
But here is a easier way to begin . . . start with shifting away from traditional expectations of “what should happen when” in your career and personal life. Challenge yourself to incorporate activities, people and interests into your daily life that bring genuine joy to you. Can’t think of any right now? Relax . . . watch what you naturally gravitate toward and what you truly enjoy. And most importantly, put your fear on a back burner. It only slows you down. Are you willing to give it a try?
Here are five tips to begin shifting your thinking in a powerful way . . .
- Give yourself permission to be optimistic
- Seek out change – stretch your comfort zone daily
- Slow down to think and allow yourself to imagine
- Take responsibility for designing your own next chapter
- Be curious about everything and willing to learn anything
Let me know how it is working for you. You’ll have a jump start on a great new year!
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Scarcity vs. Abundance Thinking
How do people stay optimistic and motivated during difficult times? Last night I had the chance to ask a group of people of mixed ages, gender and professional backgrounds that exact question. The answers came quickly. There was no hesitation. People know what works for them.
From recognizing the enjoyment of being with “like-minded” colleagues; to recognizing that we are simply a “blink” in history (and therefore need to do something now); to knowing that what we’re doing is giving a voice to people who have no voice; to believing that there is always a “light at the end of the tunnel” and to knowing that our individual efforts do matter every single day to someone else. We make a positive difference. A little wine, music and dancing got on the list as well!
Scarcity vs. Abundance Thinking
But my personal favorite was to practice abundance thinking instead of scarcity thinking. It takes practice but shifting your mindset to one of appreciating the abundance of life rather than what may be scarce in your life is very powerful.
It’s very easy to let scarcity thinking become a habit. And if you surround yourself with others who think that way then the complaining and whining really gets carried away. Fear takes over in a rapid downward spiral.
We can learn from our canine friends. Growing up in Carmel, California I walked the beach at least once a day with several dogs at my heels. And as soon as they were off their leashes they are racing down the beach. And all the dog owners would gather, chat and watch as the dogs ran and romped together. You can’t help but smile. Big dogs, little dogs, fat and skinny dogs all just enjoying the beach. They were all in the moment and totally immersed in the wealth of smells, sounds and feelings of running through the water and sand. They didn’t see what they didn’t have but rather just what they had in that moment.
We can learn from them. Take your shoes off, dig your toes in the sand and enjoy the abundance of what you have for today. Tomorrow will take care of itself . . . tomorrow.
The Introvert Advantage
The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World, by Marti Olsen-Laney, Psy.D. 2002.
This is a great book! Olsen-Laney is an introvert herself and she writes this book to help other introverts understand and appreciate themselves – the gifts and talents they bring everyday to their work places, their families and their communities.
I especially liked her chapter on introverts at work which is filled with concrete, practical tips on how to excel at work without changing who you are – a proud Introvert! And the flip side of each tip are excellent suggestions for the managers and leaders in an organization who want to know their introverts a bit better.
Appreciating the Introvert’s Gifts
I’m an extrovert. Always have been and always will be. But I couldn’t do all that I do in my business, my family and my community work without the partnership of many introverts.
This is what I love about introverts . . . they listen, they speak and then they listen some more. They contribute well thought-out ideas and they see what I don’t see. They concentrate on one thing at a time so they don’t seem as fragmented or constantly distracted as many of us do. They are often solid team members bringing another dimension and value to our busy work lives.
But it’s not easy – either being an introvert in today’s workplace or managing an introverted staff member. This month’s book, The Introvert Advantage is filled with wonderful tips on how to navigate today’s workplace as an introvert, but here are 3 of my favorite tips for the introvert’s manager to remember as well.
- Introverts do best with a quiet place to work without interruptions.
- Introverts may not speak up in meetings but be sure to ask them for their opinions.
- Introverts will need time to think before responding to your request/questions.
