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Category Archives: Inspirational Leadership
Small Business Fatigue!
A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a blog on Job Search Fatigue focused on job seekers who were truly exhausted after months of dedicated job searching. The topic hit a cord with many. But it was not only job seekers but also small business owners that responded with their own stories. They described a very similar fatigue that has resulted in some owners simply closing their doors or scaling back their businesses to a skeleton operation. Many have taken on other jobs – full or part-time – to just pay the bills leaving little time to nurture their own businesses.
These owners have been riding a roller coaster of economic news since early 2009 – coming up on three years. Sometimes it’s up and sometimes it’s down. They don’t discourage easily but they will admit that it’s been exhausting for those sole proprietors in the service industries; small family-run businesses and those slightly larger businesses with a handful of employees. There’s just not much room for extended financial losses.
A Powerful Shift in Perspective & Expectations
Over this past weekend, my career coach colleague, Ann Boyer, M.ED, CCMC suggested shifting our perspective and expectations to be more in alignment with the changes in today’s work world. As we talked, we identified a powerful shift in mind set that might just work for you.
So here is something to think about. It is a different way to approach your business growth next year. It is a shift in both your perspective and your expectations. I’m assuming that you’ve pared things down as much as you can – you are slim and trim and still in business.
So start with you having an honest chat with yourself and ask “Do I really want to stay in business?” And if that answer is unequivocally “yes” that you have your end goal. You have the entrepreneur heart!
Next, set the financial expectations aside as much as you can. If you can pay for your rent, your overhead costs and essential house expenses you’re good to go. Worrying about the money, the bills and how things have changed only drains your mental and physical energy. You are reacting from fear and it only holds you back.
3 Ways to Continue to Be a “Valuable Presence”
So for now shift your energy and focus on becoming “a valuable presence” in your community. You actually may have several communities – local, virtual, professional networks etc. But concentrate on your “presence”. You are still here and you’re going to stay.
Do this by concentrating on providing value each day, week and month to your communities. Here’s three ways to do this – do all three since they build and compliment each other.
- Stay Active (with colleagues, organizations, activities etc.)
- Stay Engaged (put energy & enthusiasm into everything)
- Stay Focused (know what is important to you – avoid detours)
And remember you bring “value” in part because you still are here and you provide history and continuity to your community. And on a good day, whip up a list (or send out a survey monkey) of all the value you bring to your customers, your colleagues, bosses etc. You will be pleasantly surprised how others see and appreciate your value over the long run!
Job Search Fatigue!
Folks are tired. They find themselves in an extended job search either voluntarily or more likely involuntarily. And as my career colleague, Ann Boyer, CCMC says “They’ve done everything right.” Many of these highly qualified job seekers have researched the best industries and job titles for their interests & skills; they are networking continuously and are connected through social media. They have updated their resumes, bios and cover letters and are applying for positions that are either being advertised or more importantly in that “hidden job market”. They have stayed positive and optimistic because they know their attitude influences every aspect of their job search. But now these “experienced” job seekers are tired and increasingly discouraged.
3 Things to Remember
First, remember that people are getting hired even here in Northern Nevada which has been hit very hard by the economical downturn and foreclosure crisis. Career professionals tell me that there seems to be a steady uptake in job offers across a variety of industries. Second, we need to also remember that there is work out there – lots of problems to solve – but the “jobs” may look different, sound different and the “how” these jobs are done may be quite different than what we are used to. So yes, people are getting work. Third, remember that persistence and patience does pay off particularly if you are willing to consider a different field, a relocation or creating several streams of income for yourself.
Pushing Past the Fatigue
So here is one tip to help push through that fatigue and keep up your momentum and optimism. Think of the small successes you could have that would feel really good. Here’s a way to do that . . .
Take a piece of paper and draw out the five Olympic Circles. You will remember that there are five intersecting circles – three on the top and two on the bottom. Next, take a moment to think of the five areas (or more) of your current life that you value spending your time and energy. Often these are areas that in the past you regretted not having the time to spend simply because you were working full-time.
Areas like your own health (exercise, eating well etc.); learning by taking a class; picking up a new hobby or volunteer commitment; having more time with your children; mini-vacations with old friends or maybe more quality involvement with your elderly parents. Pick what’s important to you in this chapter of your life. Now label each circle with one of those areas. If you want to add circles, combine priorities etc. that’s fine.
Now you can have some concrete successes in areas other than the job search. Identify priority short term goals/benchmarks in each of these areas. Be concrete – is there a weight goal? a sports fitness goal? a passion you want to nurture? Do you want to be more available to your parents, your own kids or your friends? Keep the short-term benchmarks easy to remember and to track.
Pats on the Back for Short-Term Successes
Now identify when you will know that you have hit those benchmarks – when you’ve made your first short-term goal on exercising; learning; volunteering or extra time with your own kids and parents. And give yourself a solid pat on the back for meeting each goal. It’s great to feel productive, appreciated and successful in these additional areas of your life. So even if the job search piece is taking a bit longer than you expected you are getting a wonderful boost of self-confidence from these other equally important areas of your life.
Scarcity vs. Abundance Thinking
How do people stay optimistic and motivated during difficult times? Last night I had the chance to ask a group of people of mixed ages, gender and professional backgrounds that exact question. The answers came quickly. There was no hesitation. People know what works for them.
From recognizing the enjoyment of being with “like-minded” colleagues; to recognizing that we are simply a “blink” in history (and therefore need to do something now); to knowing that what we’re doing is giving a voice to people who have no voice; to believing that there is always a “light at the end of the tunnel” and to knowing that our individual efforts do matter every single day to someone else. We make a positive difference. A little wine, music and dancing got on the list as well!
Scarcity vs. Abundance Thinking
But my personal favorite was to practice abundance thinking instead of scarcity thinking. It takes practice but shifting your mindset to one of appreciating the abundance of life rather than what may be scarce in your life is very powerful.
It’s very easy to let scarcity thinking become a habit. And if you surround yourself with others who think that way then the complaining and whining really gets carried away. Fear takes over in a rapid downward spiral.
We can learn from our canine friends. Growing up in Carmel, California I walked the beach at least once a day with several dogs at my heels. And as soon as they were off their leashes they are racing down the beach. And all the dog owners would gather, chat and watch as the dogs ran and romped together. You can’t help but smile. Big dogs, little dogs, fat and skinny dogs all just enjoying the beach. They were all in the moment and totally immersed in the wealth of smells, sounds and feelings of running through the water and sand. They didn’t see what they didn’t have but rather just what they had in that moment.
We can learn from them. Take your shoes off, dig your toes in the sand and enjoy the abundance of what you have for today. Tomorrow will take care of itself . . . tomorrow.
Carrots & Sticks: Motivating Yourself & Others
Since our economic downturn began in in early 2009, I have been giving many workshops on the challenges of staying motivated and engaged when everything is changing around you. Bringing out the best in others (and in ourselves) has always been a favorite topic of mine but it has taken on more urgency in these tough times.
Motivation Isn’t That Complicated!
When people say “You can’t motivate someone else” I disagree. I think it’s actually quite easy. One just needs to understand a bit about human nature and what innately drives most of us. Pick up Daniel Pink’s book “Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us” 2009. I think you will be pleasantly surprised that you do know what motivates us and it’s not just a crunchy carrot.
For years, business has used the “carrots and sticks” style of motivating others. Reward behavior you want and punish behavior you don’t want. These extrinsic motivators can work well for routine, non-creative work that just needs to be churned out. But our 21st century world now is far more complex and challenging. And we desperately need the best and the brightest ideas and solutions. Luckily, that’s what most of us also want. We yearn to be doing interesting, creative work that makes a difference.
So here’s the challenge. Look at your work schedule for this coming week. What responsibilities, projects and tasks are coming up for you? Now, think about what excites you, what gets your energy going, what do you think is well-worth your time. You are very likely most motivated when doing those activities because they satisfy our deeply human needs of autonomy, mastery and purpose. These intrinsic motivators are:
- To direct our own lives (autonomy)
- To learn & create new things (mastery)
- To do better by ourselves & our world (purpose)
Now ask yourself, “How could I bring more of what really motivates me into my work week?” Start by making small shifts. Keep up the momentum by acknowledging your progress each night. When you hop into bed ask yourself “Was I better today than yesterday?” Try it. It works!
Coaching Takes Off Internationally!
What a whirlwind! I just returned from the wonderful annual international coaching conference (ICF) held this year in Las Vegas, NV. This is my sixth conference – Quebec, Saint Louis, Oakland, San Jose & Montreal – and each have been a great experience well worth the money and time.
Here in Nevada, we had approximately 1,000 coaches from 42 countries attending bringing a wealth of experience and expertise to this four day conference. My head was spinning from first attending our own state-wide NV coaching conference to hearing from the incredibly inspirational key-note speakers (Michael Gelb & Steve Farber) to soaking in the rich content offered by renowned coaching professionals in the many breakout sessions. The evening wine & hors d’oeuvres events in the exhibit hall finished off each day beautifully.
Coaching is Growing World-Wide
But the very best for me is always meeting coaches from all over the United States and the world. During the opening session, it is truly a thrill to see the world map up on the big screens and then as each country is called the country’s coaches stand to thunderous applause. This year there were more coaches from Africa, the Middle East and the Eastern European bloc than I remember in past years. The UK, Canada, China, Australia and South America have hundreds of coaches attending as well.
The International Coach Federation (ICF) is the industry recognized professional association for coaching. Currently, there are 8,000 credential ICF coaches and 125 chapters in 109 countries. It is relatively young for a professional association – just 16 years old – but then again our profession is young as well with its formal beginnings in the early 1990’s. At the conference, I saw a significant trend toward corporate internal coaching, business development and leadership coach specialties.
Individual Conversations with Coaches
And what a delight to have great conversations with Anne-Marie Sevenster, South Africa; Vedat Erol, Turkey; Alexander Vreede, Netherlands; Gilles Gambade,Greece and Angela Kontgen & Victoria Stikeman from Toronto, Canada. I also had a chance to work in small groups with coaches from Mexico, Brazil, Sweden and Romania – even got an invitation to meet with the coaches in Greece! There is such a positive energy, an incredibility strong entrepreneur spirit and a willingness to think BIG – all in the service of others world-wide.
Ideas, resources and business cards were flying back and forth. Some of my training materials are going to South Africa and others are going north to Canada. What fun to share our expertise, our experiences and our support for each other and for the emerging profession of professional coaching. These individual conversations are truly what I treasure after each conference. I feel connected and honored to have several more friends and colleagues around the world . . . and I think I just might followup on that invitation to visit the coaches from Greece!
